Why is it okay for women to be an abuser?

Why is abuse females towards men becoming so normal? My Tiktok is becoming filled with women making “jokes” about verbally abusing their significant other. I saw one the other day about a woman set up a cup to fall and break on purpose, so she could shame her husband about it so she could go on a “shopping spree”. The comments were filled with “I’m taking notes here!”, “You go girl!”, “I’m so doing this to my husband later!”. If a man were to look towards a woman in the same regards even as a “joke” the comments would be filled with hate; I’ve seen it! So why is it that a man are expected to bow down at the foot of abuse while the woman gets praised for being the abuser?